(Creating an Atmosphere of Success in your home)
How do you create an atmosphere of success? Is it even possible? If so, can it be done in the family? And, exactly what is an atmosphere of success? Just deciding that you want your children to be successful isn’t enough.
Having faith and believing that it will all turn out well isn’t enough. Knowing the end goal isn’t enough, either. So, how can you encourage and achieve success?
Faith doesn’t create the reality of success but CAN create the possibility. There are at least six elements necessary in creating an atmosphere of success.
Before we look at the creation of the possibility of success, let’s see how an atmosphere of failure is developed. Viktr Frankl has proposed anticipatory anxiety: that which you fear the most is produced, in other words, “fear is mother to the event.”
A very tangible example of this is the basketball player who can’t make his free shots. Every time he lines up to shoot he feels the pressure of the moment and thinks, “I have to make this,” “I can’t miss it,” or “I’ll let the team down if I miss.” And, sure enough, he misses.
An atmosphere of failure is definitely possible, but what about an atmosphere of success?
Following are six strategies that can be observed to help promote successmosphere. And, yes, it is possible.
1. Believe in the possibility. Having a strong belief that the potential is there and not focusing on the obstacles. Be the victor not the victim. In the ball player’s scenario, he needs to say, “I am not a victim to failure. It is possible for me to make these shots and I will be responsible to work on my skills.” For the family, remember that each person has been gifted with abilities and talents that are meant to be part of the world.
2. Think outside the box but keep one toe on the bottom. Don’t be limited by what is practical or by what has been done before. Dream big-that’s the “outside the box” part. But, for dreams to come true there needs to be a plan- that’s the “keep one toe on the bottom.”
3. Be intentional. Awareness of the mission of creating the atmosphere of success is the first step on being intentional. Keeping this purpose in the forefront with intention is necessary. Another way to look at this is to be intentional about not doing things that create an atmosphere of failure. Words, for instance, can powerfully create that atmosphere. Using words that tear down, that are critical or judgmental, fill the air with tension which is not conducive to success.
4. Work on the fundamentals. Back to the ball player example, the coach needs to help the team member with his shot, how he stands at the line and does his pre-shot routine, how he holds the ball and releases the ball. Developing these basic fundamentals is required for the player to make forward progress. For the family, developing life skills and instilling character prepare children for the road ahead. Preparation in these skills breeds confidence. Confidence empowers.
5. Be authentic. Focus on the strengths and develop those. Recognize the limitations of weaknesses. On a mission visit to a school for the blind, I was amazed at the students’ determination in learning how to swim but confused with the desire of some to learn how to play ping pong. Obviously they didn’t accept their limitations. By spending time and energy on that fun task, they were neglecting their strengths.
6. Surround yourself with successful, positive, supportive people. Being around positive people helps you see stepping stones instead of stumbling blocks. “In one ear and out the other” doesn’t happen without stopping at the brain. Negative, that-won’t-work talk puts out fires of ambition. Without a vision for a positive future, people perish. And, having support from like-minded people makes the journey more hopeful and successful. Back to the basketball player, a team with a winning reputation attracts and develops winners. Attitudes of hard work and determination are the accepted norm and that promotes an atmosphere of success. The same can be true in the family. Our oldest daughter began writing music at 15 and created her first full musical, lyrics and script included, by the time she was 16. Her program was produced and performed in our own church and then on tour to other local congregations. This “set the bar” for what was possible. All eight of our children now create and perform music, sometimes in other countries. To “outsiders” it appears impressive, to them, they are just exercising their God-given gifts.
What about you? What atmosphere have you built in your home or you business? Would you add any more essentials to the list? Which of these elements is the hardest for you?